Dating at 60+ can be challenging for anyone. Dating after 60 as a black woman can come with its own set of challenges, ranging from societal stereotypes, prejudices and ageism. As we age, there is so often a societal expectation that we should settle down and be content with the relationships we have. These expectations can be even more severe for black women, who are often stereotyped as being strong, independent, and not in need of emotional support, love and companionship. This can lead to black women feeling overlooked or dismissed in the dating pool.

One of the major challenges we face as black women when dating at 60+ is “finding” a potential partner. As we get older, especially for black women, the dating pool naturally becomes smaller. Many people in our age group may already be in long term relationships, widowed, or simply not interested in dating.

While online dating can be a way to meet new people, it can also feel overwhelming and intimidating, especially for those who may not be as tech-savvy. In my experiences the men were not truthful about who they claimed to be online. I would rather met someone through a referral.

There can also be emotional hurdles to overcome. Many women in our age group have experienced loss, whether it be through divorce or the death of a partner, like myself. Loss made it difficult for me open up to a new relationship and trust again.

As I’ve gotten older, and through much prayer, I am more confident and secure in who I am. Because I have a better sense of who I am, I know, what I now need in a partner. I also understand that dating at 60+ can be difficult, but I tell myself often that love knows no boundaries and can be found at any age.

Despite the challenges of dating at 60+, its important for us to remember that we are deserving of love, companionship and fulfilling relationships. AS “SP” WOMEN, (sixty plus and seasoned perfection) we have a wealth of life experiences and wisdom to bring to a relationship.

Finding love and companionship in our golden years is possible and as black women let’s not settle for anything less than the love and respect we deserve. I say, with perseverance, self-love, and resilience let’s help one another on this dating journey. For those who have been successful, share some of that seasoned wisdom, experiences, and let’s support each other.